The Inner Work of Age: Shifting from Role to Soul

MY BOOK JUST WON AN AWARD: “Award Winner in the Nonfiction Inspirational category of the 2021 Best Book Awards sponsored by American Book Fest” 

MY BOOKS IS BACK IN STOCK ON AMAZON:

Please tell your friends!

Or you can buy it on: Barnes and Noble on their website and in some stores:https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-inner-work-of-age-connie-zweig/1138639454?ean=9781644113400&st=AFF&2sid=Simon%20&%20Schuster_7567305_NA&sourceId=AFFSimon%20&%20Schuster

 

My new book is here!

UPCOMING BOOK EVENTS ON INNER WORK OF AGE FOR YOU:

Listen to my interview about aging into awakening on Buddha at the Gas Pump:

Check out a new interview (Nov. 2021) on public radio here: https://www.mynspr.org/

Listen to this fantastic interview from October, 2021, on Revolutionize Your Retirement: https://revolutionizeretirement.com/

A new Oct. 2021 podcast for your listening pleasure: One Soul Radio:

https://www.unityonlineradio.org/one-soul-radio/inner-work-age-shifting-role-soul-connie-zweig-phd

Changing of the Gods video: Myths of Age

on the MythSalon:

Excellent Oct. 2021 podcast with me here on Soul Science Nutrition:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-inner-work-of-age-shifting-from-role-to-soul/id1514456880?i=1000537063961

New October 2021 podcast on Dare to Dream. Listen here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dare-to-dream-with-debbi-dachinger/id1446460919

NO BS SPIRITUAL BOOK CLUB: MY 10 BEST SPIRITUAL BOOKS:

Dec. 3, 5:00-7:00 pm PT: CREATIVITY AND SHADOW-WORK

CORRECTION: Dec. 4, 10:30-1:00 PST or 12:30-3:00 CST or 1:30-4:00 EST:

LIFE REVIEW OF YOUR LIVED AND UNLIVED LIFE

https://jungstlouis.org/product-category/events/lectures-workshops/

Dec. 10, 6:00-8:00 pm PT, BECOMING AN ELDER: Boulder Friends of Jung, workshop:

https://www.boulderfriendsofjung.org/upcoming-events

2022:

Jan. 14, 4:30-6:00 PT, LIFE REVIEW, Washington, DC, Jung Society:

https://www.jung.org/event-4460888

Jan. 19, 7-9:00 pm PT, CREATIVITY AND SHADOW-WORK, Seattle Jung Society:

Check here for registration to come: https://jungseattle.net/eticket/event_summary.php

Jan. 22, 4:30-6:30 PT, INNER WORK OF RETIREMENT, Atlanta Jung Society:

Events

Jan. 28, 4:00-6:00 PT, CREATIVITY AND SHADOW-WORK, Maine Jung Society:

Creativity and Shadow Work

Podcasts for your listening pleasure:

Sept. 2021: The Sacred Speaks:

Sept 2021 podcast with EngAge. Listen here:

https://www.youtube.com/c/EngagedagingOrg

Sept 2021 podcast on SpiritMatters:

Connie Zweig

NEW BOOK: Crossing the threshold into late life can feel like a high-wire act without a net. But, if you are retiring or rewiring, ill or caregiving, feeling purposeful or disoriented, yearning to serve or do spiritual practice, you can learn to cross over from denial to awareness, from distraction to presence, from role to soul.

I am extending my work on the Shadow into late life for people 50+ who want to move past denial, fear, and resistance to discover their dreams and opportunities for this stage of life. My mission: to redefine “age” and to help others reimagine it as a spiritual journey.

I am blogging excerpts on Medium at https://medium.com/@conniezweig

Ongoing 12-part online course: Meeting and Romancing Your Shadow — my complete body of work — continues on Spiritualityandpractice.com

 

See why I’m writing about AGE:

https://medium.com/@conniezweig/age-by-the-numbers-a-remarkable-untold-story-5d7402646491

My Interview with Ken Wilber: He calls on Elders to Grow Up, Clean Up, Wake Up, and Show Up:

Follow me on Medium to get more excerpts of the next book: https://medium.com/@conniezweig/a-call-to-grow-up-clean-up-wake-up-show-up-2bd42ff2c683

My interview with mythologist Michael Meade on Reinventing the Elder: https://medium.com/@conniezweig/reinventing-the-elder-today-b110e17f72f4

An Interview with Chant leader Krishna Das, Wizard Behind the Kirtan

 https://medium.com/@conniezweig

A Conversation with Spiritual Elder Anna Douglas, Buddhist Meditation teacher, co-founder of Spirit Rock Meditation Center

This is part of my series of interviews with Spiritual Elders for my new book.

After three decades of teaching mindfulness at Spirit Rock in Northern California and in Tucson, Az., Anna, at 78, has turned her attention to Buddhist teachings about age and death. In our conversation, I asked her why.

“I used to live in New York and observe older people sitting on benches in the park. It would annoy me. I would ask myself, “What’s wrong with them? Why don’t they do something. I had judgment. . . .Now I’m one of them.” (In my language, Anna had discovered her inner ageist.) She continued.

“The changes in my own body, brain, and energy level are more noticeable now, and I don’t want to do much. I don’t want to multi-task. I’m more easily satisfied with what’s here, now.

“Also, many Baby Boomers over 60 are coming to Spirit Rock for retreats, motivated by their suffering about ageing and seeking a practice and a framework to deal with it. So, there’s great consciousness raising when we’re in the room together.”

 
Anna Douglas, co-founder of Spirit Rock Meditation Center

I asked her to explain how the Buddha’s teachings might help with the physical, mental, and emotional changes of late life. “We’re finding the dharma now to be less remote and more profoundly useful. As an example, let’s take the three marks or characteristics of existence: First, suffering is built into life. We want it to be different, we want a younger body. But our task is to accept that our physical aging is natural, not a failure.

“Next, impermanence: Everything is temporary. All physical and mental things are in flux, emerging and dissolving. Human life embodies this flux in the aging process of decaying and dying. But, again, we want it to be permanent, which creates a lot of suffering. So, our task is to see that it’s all impermanent and work toward accepting that truth.

“Third, we are empty, without an essential self. But we constantly seek a permanent sense of self in our longings, our work, our creations, our children. With aging, our roles and self-images disappear. Our contributions may lessen. The solid sense of self can be seen through more easily as transparent, empty.

“With aging, our suffering, impermanence, and emptiness become more real, more obvious. The root of it is in our identification with the body. But if we experience unconditioned mind or pure awareness in meditation, then we’re not so lost. Then we can find an opening to awakening. As the Buddha put it, ‘Though the body is sick, let not the mind be sick.’ That means, train the mind in well-being and just notice the passing forms in the world.”

I wondered aloud how mindfulness practice changes as we age. “Mindfulness is an invitation to do one thing– breathe, be present, notice. In late life, it becomes easier because we’re not so busy with our desires. Our longings have quieted down a bit. And our physical and mental activity slows naturally.”

Anna spoke about how her experience of teaching mindfulness has changed over the decades. “It’s taken a long time to find my voice as a woman in a patriarchal tradition. Now I have a sense of love and genuineness when I teach because my life experience and spiritual practice made me ripe. Aging settles us, makes us more authentic, which is what older people need — to become who we always were.”

“Has your sense of time changed?” I asked.

“This time is a rich period of practice. The future is not visible; it doesn’t exist. So, the work is not about the future. I’m feeling the gift of life, the blessing of experience,” she told me.

“And the biggest surprise for you?”

“When I look back and review my life now, I can see all of the plans and agendas that I tried to force into happening. But my ego’s agendas went nowhere. When I lived in Santa Monica and worked as a therapist, I just happened to see a flier for a talk by Joseph Goldstein. I walked into a small shed with ten people and heard the Four Noble Truths for the first time. I recognized it immediately as my path — and headed off to Barre, Massachusetts to the center there. When I returned to California and opened Spirit Rock together with the other teachers, it was a great adventure — and much better than anything I could have planned. I see now that things had to happen that way.”

I asked if she wanted to add anything about the dharma of aging.

“Stay in your seat to develop stability of mind, to keep from getting swept away by thoughts. And reflect on ownership — my and mine. So you practice letting go of thoughts, feelings, people, and things. Aging requires letting go, and meditation can help us to cultivate that practice.”

Anna is helping to shepherd new young teachers into Spirit Rock Meditation Center, so that the legacy continues. They offer Buddhist meditation courses to families, teens, women, men, and Baby Boomers.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dancing with Shadows:

A Conversation With Connie Zweig

Interview originally published in Psychology Today

For the past 30 years, Dr. Connie Zweig has been a pioneer in fields of shadow work and meditation practice.  The founder of the Center for Shadow Work and Spiritual Counseling of the AIWP, she received her doctorate in depth psychology, trained at the Los Angeles Jung Institute, and has been in private practice in Los Angeles for over two decades, helping thousands of people detect unconscious sources of secret feelings and behaviors, and transform them into positive, constructive patterns. Dr. Zweig is the author of  A Moth to the Flame, and co-author of two seminal books in the field, Meeting the Shadow and Romancing the Shadow. We spoke recently about the secret wisdom to be found in the shadow, and how to bring mindfulness to our forbidden zones, as well as compassion, on the path to of authenticity.

Mark Matousek:  How should we think about authenticity when the “self” is made up of so many inconsistent parts?

Connie Zweig:  We have all had the experience of a shadow character or part of ourselves erupting in spontaneous anger, lying, greed, or feelings of jealousy. We recognize the eruption in a critical comment we don’t mean to make, or in a repetitive fight with our partner, or some unacceptable behavior we can’t understand. Those parts are in all of us, and they are formed in our childhood through what psychology calls “defenses.” Sometimes those parts are repressed and sometimes they are projected onto others, but these forbidden feelings are unacceptable to our self-image and typically denied by the ego. “That’s immoral—I’d never do that,” or “That’s impolite.”

Most people are aware that there is some part of them correcting other parts, but they may not be aware of a higher self or what we could call an intuitive self. It’s the part that allows us to come back into equilibrium, and learn how to observe the shadow parts. To observe and do shadow work, we need the experience of being centered in a higher self. That is why our spiritual practice is so pivotal.

Without space inside our minds to observe forbidden feelings and behaviors, they take over. When they do, we feel controlled and overshadowed by them. For example, the moment you feel road rage and flip the finger at another driver, you lose your center and capacity to witness. In your anger, you’re unconsciously identified with that shadow figure. My work is about teaching people how to break that resultant unconscious identification of “I’m bad,” or “I’m an angry person,” and come back to the center. They learn to have a relationship with that part, and dialogue with that part, in order to recognize that it is not the essence of who they are as spiritual beings. And in this way, they connect to their authentic selves.

MM:  Are you saying that without the ability to witness our thoughts the identification with our shadow is too strong for us not to be caught in destructive behavior?

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